19 Responses to “ Being in love with more than one person ”

1. # 1 Gretch-a-sketch Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 11:28 am

   That’s fascinating. You can certainly crush/lust/like more than one person at a time, but I think that statement goes against everything that love stands for. Yeah, I’m a hopeless romantic.

2. # 2 Michelle & the City Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 11:45 am

   i’ll get back to you on that one…

3. # 3 Kiersten Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 12:03 pm

   I absolutely think you can. As the great Carrie Bradshaw once posed, once you love someone and then you stop being with them–where does the love go?

   I think it’s much harder to fall “out of love” with somebody then it is to be in love with more than one person at a time.

4. # 4 What Liz Said Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 12:05 pm

   I can barely be in love with two handbags at once in good conscience, let alone two guys.

5. # 5 Lauren Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 1:00 pm

   I don’t know. I’m sure you could form minor crushes on others, but love? Maybe different types of love. Friendship love. But not necessarily passionate I want to marry you love.

6. # 6 Kristel Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 2:56 pm

   I don’t think so.
   As others have mentioned…crushing is a different story…but being in LOVE with two people at once?? That’s a sappy romantic comedy.

7. # 7 Julie Says:
   June 4th, 2008 at 10:56 pm

   Though I am not polyamorous myself, I have friends who are. One set, in particular, is a triad with a small daughter (about 9 months old) and planning to parent as a triad. To all outward appearances, they all love each other. For myself, while I wouldn’t want to have physical relationships with more than one person at a time, I feel very strongly for the two men in my life: my boyfriend and my best friend (he also happens to be my ex). With my best friend, I don’t have the “I want to take you into my bed” love, but I do have the “I want you to be happy and would sacrifice to help you be happy” love. It’s a platonic love, but love nonetheless.

8. # 8 Jane Says:
   June 5th, 2008 at 3:40 am

   I battle to love one person at any given time - I couldn’t imagine loving two!. I’m a complete commitment-phobe. Don’t want to say the L word, no siree.

9. # 9 Cynthia Says:
   June 5th, 2008 at 5:44 am

   I’m a commitment-phobe as well. I think loving one person romantically is mind numbing in itself. But loving more than one person…I have extremely close friends that I would be destroyed if we didn’t talk anymore, I love them like crazy.

10. # 10 sophie Says:
    June 5th, 2008 at 11:11 am

    I think TV and movies have a lot to do with the opinions and ideas of people being polyamorous. In real life, it’s just a matter of going from a crush to another within a relationship. Taking the plunge and “love” another person while you’re “in love” with one, might be considered as a daredevil move. It has nothing to do with the real meaning of the word love, it just has a lot to do with adrenalin pumping.

    In my case, if I really need it, I’ll go bungee jumping any given time. No mess, no fuss.

11. # 11 Bronnie Says:
    June 5th, 2008 at 5:28 pm

    I’m in that age group too. I don’t think you can be inlove with more than one person. But I think you can develop a crush, while inlove with someone else.

12. # 12 amy Says:
    June 5th, 2008 at 8:16 pm

    Although I don’t personally agree with that, I guess I could see how others would (think The Bachelor in real life). That’s a very interesting statistic though…perhaps that’s why I’m not married yet ha!

13. # 13 the almost right word Says:
    June 12th, 2008 at 5:08 pm

    recently asked myself this very question when prompted with the possibility of “having feelings” for someone other than my boyfriend, whom i know i love.

    to be honest, i still don’t know what the answer is…

14. # 14 the almost right word Says:
    June 12th, 2008 at 5:08 pm

    and p.s. i think that’s the most personal thing i have ever written (in a comment, or my own blog). thanks for bringing it out of me.

15. # 15 Lara Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 9:10 pm

    i have been.

16. # 16 Laura Says:
    June 18th, 2008 at 7:32 am

    I think you can love two people (or more) at once, but not be IN love with more than one at a time.

17. # 17 Tin Ma'am Says:
    June 18th, 2008 at 4:08 pm

    I have been, but I’m quite lucky to be surrounded by so many great people of the opposite sex.

18. # 18 rana irfan aziz Says:
    June 24th, 2008 at 12:05 am

    i rthink a person can love two persons but not at a time…
    He or She has to chose one..

19. # 19 Aaron Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 10:51 pm

    You can definitely love two people at the same time. Being “in love” with someone is what society has named for infatuation for someone. Love is a choice… true love anyway. When someone is at their worst, even when directed toward you, and you still love them, then you’re choosing to love them. True love is unconditional.

    Whether or not you want to transform your love for a person, or people, into a relationship with him/her, or them, is another story. I think you can love multiple people for different reasons. Why do we have to say only one person can “love” us, or vice versa? When you think about it, that’s a lot of pressure. Maybe that’s why there are so many failed marriages in this day and age.

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