R is for Relationships :: ABCs of Life in Your 20s

R is for Relationships :: ABCs of Life in Your 20s

R is for Relationships :: ABCs of Life in Your 20s

One of my favorite parts of running this ABC series has been choosing the guest writers for each post. When I decided to have R be for Relationship, I knew I wanted someone who could write about all aspects of relationships – family, friends, work, as well as dating. The first definition of the term relationship is usually linked to romantic relationship. We already had a post about dating, so I was wanting this post to cover a broader range. The person that I chose to write this post is Erica of Five Blondes, a blog written by Erica and her 4 blonde sisters. When I wrote to her asking if she’d like to participate this was my logic “I figure someone with 4 sisters knows about creating relationships with people.”

This guest post was written by Erica, who blogs regularly along with her 4 blonde sisters at Five Blondes.

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It’s not just what you know, it’s who you know.

Have you ever heard that?

I’m here to tell you that it’s completely true. My life is a testament to the fact! My job, my apartment, my fiance…none of these things would even exist if it hadn’t been for friends and family. Relationships help you get ahead in life, and can give your life structure and meaning. I would feel lost without my friends and family – wouldn’t you?

Although I’m only 25, I’ve known my boss for over 14 years (and we’re the same age!). How is that possible? We met in the fifth grade, both new students at a music school. We quickly became friends and remained close throughout elementary school and high school. We drifted apart a little after she got married and began her family – at the same time, she was starting a business with her husband. Just over a year ago, I noticed that their company was hiring. Feeling unchallenged by my call centre job, I thought to myself “it’s who you know!” Thanks to my longtime relationship with my friend, today I have a job I love and new relationships with great co-workers and clients.

Since turning 20, I’ve found that it has been easier to identify what relationships in my life are the most meaningful. I’ve traveled across the country and back and held nearly a dozen different jobs. My friends from high school have spread out across the country, making getting together a rare occasion. But the people who truly care about me are the ones I just can’t seem to get rid of – in the best way possible! They’re the friends who send notes every once in a while just to say hi. The cousins I see only once a year – but when I do see them, it feels like we were never apart. It is said that true friends are hard to find – I also think they’re hard to lose.

When it comes to your relationships with your family members, it might take a long time for you to recognize the true value in them. As is normal when siblings are growing up, my sisters and I fought. A lot. It wasn’t until they began moving away from home for university and for their own twenty-something adventures that I realized just how special they are to me, and how important it is for them to be a part of my life. Like fine wine, relationships only get better with age – I can’t wait for the future!

4 thoughts on “R is for Relationships :: ABCs of Life in Your 20s

  1. That post is exceptionally true. Relationships aren’t just about who you’re dating, but they’re about the people who have shaped your life–the family members and friends who have been there for you. Like what she said, while living at home, my younger brother and I would fight constantly, unless we weren’t speaking to one another. As soon as I left for college, he started calling me for advice. We became friends. I wont say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I will say that it might make you realize what you have. Since then, we’ve become much closer and I’m so glad to have him in my life. I’m so glad to have all of my friends in my life. Whether they’re the best friend I call every day for advice or the friend I see once a month, once a year even…i’m still glad I have them. And that we’re there for one another, whenever we need it.

    Great post–and great blog! :)

  2. I agree, relationships are key. The lone wolf model of living, while the idea that I was strong enough that I didn’t need anyone else appealed to me, frankly isn’t at all practical. We need those relationships to help us get established, and just give us a sense of usefulness and meaning.

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